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About Interacial Dating (Story Included)
Rikimaru_X
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Got a story for you here. So me and Tatsumaru (another ninja of course..Caucasian) are at the mall and we started to talk to girls as usual. So Tatsu saw this cutie at Starbucks. He approached and I went into stealth to hear things out. They talked, blah blah blah. Then I herd this girl say somthing that uhh...I don't know didn't seem right to me. (I'm going to try to simulate the coversation as closely as I can. My thoughts are in red).
Girl: ...I don't date black guys though. I'm not racist or anything, but I just don't.
Tatsu: Why is that? Surely you have a better reason than that.
Girl: Well, one day my daddy approchaed me and said, "You don't plan on ever dating a black guy do you?". I didn't know what to say and then he said, "Becuase you will be hated, disrepected and people will look at you differently." So when I look at a black guy that approaches me I think about my dad. I mean I know he is not rasist though.
Riki: Parents actually say things like that?!
Tatsu: That is a pretty prejedious comment though. Wait, this is why you don't date blacks, becuase your dad says that? That is not necessarly a good outlook on things. For a father to be happy about whomever his daughter dates, loves, or hang out with no matter what race or color (as long as he is cool with the father, so that varies) is cool, but for a father to limit a daughter's choices in men based on color...that's just wrong. That doesn't sound like a good father to me with a comment like that.
Girl: Well I mean...I don't know. He isn't racist though. I hope you don't think I'm a bad person...
Tatsu: Your 19, I'm pretty sure you lerned that you should never judge a man by his color. Maybe your father had a bad experience and took it out somthing else, I have no clue. Maybe he is trying to keep rep. in the family, I have no clue. What I do know is that if you want to find a good guy, you need to get your father's negative outlook on relationships with blacks out of your head.
Riki: *plays with string listening to conversation*
Girl: Your right... I hope you think any bad of me.
Tatsu: I don't know, well I got to go though. Just to let you know I have blacks in my family, don't let my color fool you. I'm guessing I don't think you would be interested in me neither.
Girl: REALLY, no wait! Here is my number, please I would like your help.
Tatsu: Gotch ya, I'll talk to you later about this a bit more. Thanks.
Girl: Thanks, bye babe.
*Tatsumaru earned 3847 EXP*
Note that coversation evovled around Interacial dating, yet Blacks just came up out of it.
Now me and Tatsumaru talked about this. I found this suprising that parents actually do things like that. I have a very open family, but to say somthing like that to your own daughter is uhh damn. It just kinda hurts that some people are that afraid of interacial dating/relationships in a family. Yeah my wisdom on this is not all that great. I would like to hear from some of you guys about it. Is this really mind boggling for me. This girl isn't interested in interacial dating, just becuase on an ignorant comment? Don't seem right to me.
Tatsumaru want to set this girl straight. While he does that, I think he's going to go into knowing about things like this. This is new to both of us so yeah...
Can some of your wiser (and others) ones share some thoughts, this is new for me. I just wanted to know if any of your are intrested in interacial dating and why.
NOTE: In the poll I mean say if your not in a relationship at the moment, would you be interested.
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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Obviously, theres many more ethnicies than just "black" and "white". We are no longer living in 1942, Germany. I don't know anyone against interracial (i have something against that word..) dating, and i myself have nothing against it either.
I personally don't have a problem with it, but its not like I'm going to be jumping all over someone just because they're a different race.
If I like her, then yes. If I don't, then no. Same rules as for dating the same race.
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I remember one of my first times in LA and I got together with a black girl. The look on black peoples faces was priceless. Her parents LMAO, they wouldnt even let me through their door for the Rib dinner we were invited too. I remember another occasion in NYC, I started flirting with a black girl got her phone number and gave her a little pat on the ass which amazingly enough resulted in a group of 9 black guys wanting to know what I was doing with a colour girl LMAO. I got so many stories on being with Black girls and the enormous amount of racism there is from it in the United States. Interracial dating does not really exists were I come form, you just date who ever you want when ever you want, colour is not a subject of discussion it is usually how nice tuned her ass is. I guess that is why being with a black girl in the United States is such a big no no among black people, I guess racism is as great on the black side as it is on the white side when coming to interracial relationships. Bring it on down now.
Damn byotch dat aint no friggn moon fool, dat be a friggn space station byotch.
Dont get me wrong, because I am NOT racist but I wont date someone out of my race either. In my time you rarely ever seen interracial relationships, so it was almost a given that you do not look for a mate outside of your race. Whenever I see a couple in an interracial relationship it makes me wonder where and how they were raised but I respect the fact that they appear to be happy and in love and thats ok ( it doesnt really bother me) I have had some really awesome black, white and Asian friends throughout the years and I have never once thought to myself OMG this person is black or OMG this person is Asian, instead I have counted my blessings that I got to know and care for each of these individuals. Just because someone makes the comment that they dont date someone out of their race doesnt always mean that someone is racial,, maybe they were raised in a era or area where that was not a normal day to day thing, maybe it was their upbringing. I do not think it is fair to make someone feel they are being racist because of their relationship preference.
I go for all girls, yet you do get looked at diffrently, people wonder, so what, that is how it goes in any relationship. The love or relation of each other does not have to interact to the negeitivity of the outside world (family, friends, related, etc.), but if the outside world is willing to accept then they can join.
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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Seems like the normal "dad response" to me.
I've got it from my dad no end of times.
Once they realise they are not going to have it all their own way they start to adjust their attitudes. If never challenged of course, they will remain the same.
I get the nigger treatment in Japan. Mrs B is very nervous to admit to me in public. Might as well get used to it.
As for the poll, sorry mate, I'm spoken for. Good luck in your hunt.
My oppinion has always been that I date the guy, not his wallet, race, parents, name, whatever else you want to think about.
Mind you, I guess it would be almost impossible for me to be against any sort of relationship. My mother is Chinese and my father is Russian, I am quite literally the product of a very succesful mixed racial family and really, other then stupid younger kids in early days of school, it's never been an issue.
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It's not just about race... it's also about culture, preconceived notions about others, and looks... I actually think white people look better lol, but asians tend to stay with the young appearance longer. Also, with asians, because of culture, I feel that they would understand me better. Also, I just think it looks weird if your child has a totally different look or appearance from you. Atleast you guys are like black or white. I'm YELLOW
. Okay, I'm not gonna go too deep into this, so I'll leave it at that...
On a side note though, in the end everyone will eventually become interacial anyways
Personally Im all for inter-racial marriages and dating. I myself am engaged to a Filipina and am negotiating a marriage with her mother. Boy thats taking some getting used to hehe
I remember when I was little and thought what he said was true. Then I made friends with a black guy at school. I think it was in 4th or 5th grade or so. Anyways, I asked him to come to my birthday party I was having. His mom brought him over and they knocked on the door to come into the house and the party. My dad answered the door and told them that no ni**er was entering our house. I remember being so confused. I didn't know what to think. I just started crying and went in my room for the rest of the party. But you know my friends mom was so cool about it. She didn't tell my friend about how bad we are or that's the way white people act. The next day we went to school, my friend brought my present to me that him and his mom had gotten and told me about how his mom explained to him not to be mad at me. He said she told him that it was nice of me to invite him and that I didn't know that was going to happen. I didn't. And him and I stayed friends.
But I have learned from my dad and situations like that. There's no logic or reason behind it. And people like my dad have just been taught that hate is okay. There are so many differences each of us have to use against other people. Which is why we should focus on differences as strengths instead of barriers. It's a dangerous path to take that can lead to a lot of despair and division. It may seem okay to the party that ends up on top, but what they don't realize is how much it hurts everyone as a whole. There are contributions that each of us can make and by oppressing a group of people those contributions are squelched and never made.
As some wit once commented: we are all pink inside.
But Im more attracted to the asian ( mostly japanese and chinese ) girls than white's or blacks. ( Im white, fyi )sexualy and I seem to get along better with them, than I do white's and blacks.
@ ) But other than that, we're all good.
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Who would be attracted to fat girls? The is the point for women, if they have the necessary requirements (nice shape, cute bum, attractive facial features, and a classy look, personality and intelligence need not apply) to show up on my radar screen as it were, then colour really does not matter. What matters is what they are like in bed, and what they look like naked, it is very important to look better without any cloths on then to have cloths on
. Bring it on down now.
Damn byotch dat aint no friggn moon fool, dat be a friggn space station byotch.
Who would be attracted to fat girls? The is the point for women, if they have the necessary requirements (nice shape, cute bum, attractive facial features, and a classy look, personality and intelligence need not apply) to show up on my radar screen as it were, then colour really does not matter. What matters is what they are like in bed, and what they look like naked, it is very important to look better without any cloths on then to have cloths on
. Bring it on down now.
Tell that too most of the girls at my school. They wear shirts far too small for them, and pants way too tight. There is fat hanging over the top of the pants, and the shirts crawl up, showing their fat hips and stomachs.
But I prefer clothing to being naked. I can't stand the thought of anyone, let alone my girlfriend, seeing me naked. ;D Im a prude, hehe!
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Who would be attracted to fat girls? The is the point for women, if they have the necessary requirements (nice shape, cute bum, attractive facial features, and a classy look, personality and intelligence need not apply) to show up on my radar screen as it were, then colour really does not matter. What matters is what they are like in bed, and what they look like naked, it is very important to look better without any cloths on then to have cloths on
. Bring it on down now.
Tell that too most of the girls at my school. They wear shirts far too small for them, and pants way too tight. There is fat hanging over the top of the pants, and the shirts crawl up, showing their fat hips and stomachs.
But I prefer clothing to being naked. I can't stand the thought of anyone, let alone my girlfriend, seeing me naked. ;D Im a prude, hehe!
I know exactly what you mean, tell me how do you feel when they come up to you and hit on you looking the way they do??? Bring it on down now.
Damn byotch dat aint no friggn moon fool, dat be a friggn space station byotch.
I would happily date I person I found attractive regardless of their culture but there are some races I find unattractive, like women with really dark skin (I mean seriously dark) I don't know why but it just turns me off. I think people who refuse to date others because of their race or culture shouldn't be criticised because there are factors which make people feel uncomfortable which we need to accept aren't the same for us. For some people going out with a person who has a completely different ethnic origin would make them feel awkward and uptight, so I respect when people tell me they refuse to date people just because of their race, just as I would respect a person who refused to go out with someone because of their physical appearance.
I'd like to thank all of you. Ya really got some good outlooks and personal experiences around this subject.
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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Her father was right, people would definately treat her like that. It depends on where you live though, it could be worse or better in some areas. I'd say now more than before, the last 5 or so years, racism or stereotyping has become more acceptable and open. I can remember when I was in school and race was a huge issue, but people just a few grades behind me thought nothing of race. You look at HS kids today and they're back to putting the same emphasis on race as before.
Her father probably thought he was just protecting his daughter.
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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I don't know about that, afterall I can't read his mind. He could have been thinking, "I don't want my daughter to go through the scorn that others will show her." He could have also been thinking, "I don't want my daughter bringing some black guy into my house." Whichever the reason though, I doubt we can ever know.
About being in an interacial relationship and people looking at your normally? Not in America, at least most places in America. I was trying to say that the disdain people show interacial couples is a real thing. Not 100% of the people 100% of the time, but the odds are likely you will feel that hate come up at some point. Not saying that this should stop anyone from dating outside their race, but just saying that it is something they will have to deal with. Whether her father had this in mind when talking to his daughter, I don't know.
-In memory of Laura "Taera" Genender. Passed away on Aug/13/08-
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Races? Can't care less. I prefer Blondes or Japanese gurls, but look is not really important. Yet I am a teaser, so I would exageratedly look toward blondes if I am with a Japanese girl, and toward Japanese girls if I am with a Blonde, just to test them and see if they are slightly jealous. But look is a detail. But I definitely have a weakness for Japs and Blondes, so favorable thinking toward them. (When I say Japs, the tone of my voice is admiring and teasing at the same time, provocative, want them to react, not remain neutral and composed as they always do)
I would consider a girl with any belief except Islam, without converting ever. I am a silly Catholic and always will be. Loyalty to the Pope!
A senile old man granted, but a KIND guy, which is all that matter. He is backward on some issues, like I am pro-choice, but eventually they will understand this better...it just take time to make them understand...a little like talking with Brad, in less bad. 
Talking french is relatively important and failing to do so, then talking english would be a minimal obligation however. Not fun not understanding anything. I might learn another language in time as well, but I would do everything I can to keep my accent, just like I did learn frenglish instead of english!
- "If I understand you well, you are telling me until next time. " - Ren