I'm not a racist but I know I would never have dated seriously outside my race before I was married. There are some pretty heavy reasons for this. Cultural differences being one major one, living in the south I have many Black friends and a few Indian friends (not to be confused with native americans) in high school I had many Jewish friends and still do... all of them eat different types of foods, wear different styles of clothing, listen to different music, and follow different political and religious beliefs. Now if you're willing to embrace anothers culture for love then more power to you, I was unwilling to try since I like my own culture. not to say you couldn't compromise somewhere, but to do so would be difficult. Take one of my Indian friends, Her family is devout Hinu directly from India She married another friend of mine, a white boy from Mississipi who's whole family is Christian... The wedding was a spectacular traditional Indian ceremony with no hint of Christianity, he had to sacrifice his faith and his family's faith to apease her families faith. To do that speaks volumes of his willingness to sacrifice for his love. Are you willing to make sacrifices you haven't even thought of? Ask that question of yourself before entering into a mixed race relationship. It's not simply a matter of will others look down on me, or I'm not a racist so theres no reason not to. It's a matter of what are you willing to sacrifice for that other person to maintain that relationship and keep it successful. Sometimes it may just be easier to stay within your own safety zone, sometimes it may be worthwhile to step out. just my 2 cents.
Originally posted by Theutus I'm not a racist but I know I would never have dated seriously outside my race before I was married. There are some pretty heavy reasons for this. Cultural differences being one major one, living in the south I have many Black friends and a few Indian friends (not to be confused with native americans) in high school I had many Jewish friends and still do... all of them eat different types of foods, wear different styles of clothing, listen to different music, and follow different political and religious beliefs. Now if you're willing to embrace anothers culture for love then more power to you, I was unwilling to try since I like my own culture. not to say you couldn't compromise somewhere, but to do so would be difficult. Take one of my Indian friends, Her family is devout Hinu directly from India She married another friend of mine, a white boy from Mississipi who's whole family is Christian... The wedding was a spectacular traditional Indian ceremony with no hint of Christianity, he had to sacrifice his faith and his family's faith to apease her families faith. To do that speaks volumes of his willingness to sacrifice for his love. Are you willing to make sacrifices you haven't even thought of? Ask that question of yourself before entering into a mixed race relationship. It's not simply a matter of will others look down on me, or I'm not a racist so theres no reason not to. It's a matter of what are you willing to sacrifice for that other person to maintain that relationship and keep it successful. Sometimes it may just be easier to stay within your own safety zone, sometimes it may be worthwhile to step out. just my 2 cents.
while im not trying to take away from what you have said, cause its very true and all. but even if you marry inside your own race, youre going to be making sacrifices that you didnt want to. believe me i know, lol, and i married a white girl from the midwest, just like me (im a dude, i was talking about the midwest part being like me). marriage is all about sacrifices for love. races shouldnt be the guiding principle in your decision. and just to clarify, there are black folk that dont have the cultural difference that you mentioned, there are indians that dont have the cultural difference that you spoke of. marrying an indian doesnt always mean that youre turning into an indian. btw, i love cultural differences, and black girls are hot.
Originally posted by Rikimaru_X In your first paragrah, that we are pretty much on the same path. People don't look at you...well I would not call "normal". If a person saw a normal couple it would be barley a look. Seeing an interracial that would be a stare. So I understand what you mean about the issue of how people look at you. It could be hate and it could be curiousity. Tatsu is trying to find out more about it...I'm just as cluless in a way as you are too. I'm egared to know how it goes too.
I think the thought of people looking at you with a sense of curiosity is wishful thinking. I think it was BlazinBlades, or something like that in this thread who had a story about how some guys approached him for just flirting interacially. I don't know exactly what you are trying to find out about this girl and her father. You can learn all you need to know by taking a black girl through Baltimore, D.C, etc.. or being of another race and taking a white girl through some mid-west regions.
I just find it hard to believe that what you get from others will be simple curiosity or anything other than negativity. Frankly, there really isn't anything to be curious about....or at least I can't think of a reason someone would have a fascination with an interacial couple. Maybe they would be thinking, "I wonder why she/he couldn't find someone of their own race?" , or "I wonder what he/she see's in them?"....but I'd consider those negativity too.
Originally posted by shae My oppinion has always been that I date the guy, not his wallet, race, parents, name, whatever else you want to think about. Mind you, I guess it would be almost impossible for me to be against any sort of relationship. My mother is Chinese and my father is Russian, I am quite literally the product of a very succesful mixed racial family and really, other then stupid younger kids in early days of school, it's never been an issue.
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Originally posted by Infliction The way things look where I live, I doubt I'd ever find myself dating a black girl. Not because of race or color, but culture. I live in an extremely white area of Washington state, and grew up with maybe 4 or 5 black people total in my town of 5000 or so. In the city its a totally different story obviously, but I don't get along so well with most black guys/girls, mostly due to the hip-hop culture. I can't stand rap, fubu, sagging pants to your knees, or intentionally broken english, and I really, really, really hate rap music. I've met only 1 or 2 black people in my area/age group that aren't like that, so personally I don't think I will ever date a black girl. Not saying I'm not open to the possibility of it, but unless culture moves forward some I don't see it ever happening in my life.
hmmm your post was going great tilll the end... And i just have to bring up a couple quuestions...
Soooo you think black culture needs to "move forward"? because Blacks are the only ones who speak with intentionally broken english? Get r done? Or the only people who dress funny? or just because of the music?
I know you didn't really mean it like that though... I'm just givin you a hard time... But i truly suggest you try another culture... Mixing cultures is beautifull... And maybe you can learn something that you can appreciate about rap... and you can share ...country? with the girl...
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I've never dated outside my race..but not because I'm racist, or because I choose not too..it's just an attraction thing I guess..although there are many women of different races who I find very good looking, the majority of women I'm physically attracted to are white.
Originally posted by outfctrl I've never dated outside my race..but not because I'm racist, or because I choose not too..it's just an attraction thing I guess..although there are many women of different races who I find very good looking, the majority of women I'm physically attracted to are white.
If you wouldnt jump Halle Berry then...............
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Wow I reckon my hormones would overcome my upbringing every damn time
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Isnt it great how there is somoene for everyone in life. I mean it would be both boring and a little tense if we all like the same poeple
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I can only speak for myself. Aside from race, you have culture. Culture is more important to me than race. If I do not agree or relate to a particular culture, I cannot date a person from that culture. We just wouldn't see eye to eye on most things. I don't exactly know the reason why, maybe it is biological, but I do not find people that are a different race attractive. Hell, I don't even find most of the women in my own race attractive. But thank goodness I already found the most beautiful woman in the world and married her!
As for my son...
I would never tell him he couldn't date someone that is a different race. But it would be hard for me to accept someone of a culture I do not agree with as part of the family.
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tell me you wouldnt date her, i would! in a heartbeat..
Other than the fact that I am happily married, I wouldn't date her. While visual appearance is important, it is not the only reason to date someone. I've never went up and asked someone out on a date, because of looks. I always got to know the person first, and if that person was "my type" then I would ask her out.
So all these pictures you and others are posting of "other than white" hot women are not that enticing. All they are is beautiful women and those are easy to come by. I would much rather know "who" they are rather than what they look like.
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Originally posted by outfctrl Now this is a woman!!
I don't know if it is their age (regarding the other posters that don't think she is attractive) but I am with you man. I find a fully clothed woman, who dresses nicely, and has beautiful eyes more attractive than a woman with hardly any clothes on.
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tell me you wouldnt date her, i would! in a heartbeat..
Other than the fact that I am happily married, I wouldn't date her. While visual appearance is important, it is not the only reason to date someone. I've never went up and asked someone out on a date, because of looks. I always got to know the person first, and if that person was "my type" then I would ask her out.
So all these pictures you and others are posting of "other than white" hot women are not that enticing. All they are is beautiful women and those are easy to come by. I would much rather know "who" they are rather than what they look like.
i do respect your views, but i gotta say, youre like part of the 2% of the male population that actually believes that way. either that, or youre lying to make yourself seem more "mature". if youre telling the truth, kudos to you, you are very unique. most of us men wish that we could actually view women that way (not just say we do, lol). if youre lying, then congratulations, your just like the rest of us. the only difference is that the rest of us dont see a reason to lie about how we really feel, especially on a forum. in either case, if your wife reads your post, im sure shell be quite impressed with it.
Oo and just so you know, i completely agree about the "more than looks that counts" aspect of your post. but looks are very nice to have. wish i had em.
Originally posted by outfctrl Now this is a woman!!
I don't know if it is their age (regarding the other posters that don't think she is attractive) but I am with you man. I find a fully clothed woman, who dresses nicely, and has beautiful eyes more attractive than a woman with hardly any clothes on.
then it might interest you to know that Meg here has played in several movies where she wasnt "fully clothed", lol. and yes i find her very attractive, especially in "City of Angels". good movie, and great actress.
I do not really find any of those women attractive, I thinking next day action, sure there are plenty of girls that can put on a lot of makeup to look good, but in the morning for the next day action to begin, yea thats were it really counts. I remember I hooked up one night with a lingerie model in NYC, she looked good, everyone thought she was so sexy, until the morning, and man was I ever horrified I felt violated. Remove the war paint off their faces, and remove the enhancements to their pictures, then we can decide if they are sexy or not. (Side note: I met Beyonce 7 times in the same Hotel in London, very nice person I had no idea who she was to be honest, until she told me, but she is not as attractive as people think. People I think would be very surprised at how truly unattractive these people are when they are caught off guard, and most importantly not done up like a Barbie doll).Bring it on down now.
Damn byotch dat aint no friggn moon fool, dat be a friggn space station byotch.
Originally posted by JK-Kanosi Originally posted by PlanoMM tell me you wouldnt date her, i would! in a heartbeat..
Other than the fact that I am happily married, I wouldn't date her. While visual appearance is important, it is not the only reason to date someone. I've never went up and asked someone out on a date, because of looks. I always got to know the person first, and if that person was "my type" then I would ask her out.
So all these pictures you and others are posting of "other than white" hot women are not that enticing. All they are is beautiful women and those are easy to come by. I would much rather know "who" they are rather than what they look like.
She's a celeb, you can pretty much get all the info you need off the internet. Don't take his comment too hard. It's called a crush.
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I'm not a racist but I know I would never have dated seriously outside my race before I was married. There are some pretty heavy reasons for this. Cultural differences being one major one, living in the south I have many Black friends and a few Indian friends (not to be confused with native americans) in high school I had many Jewish friends and still do... all of them eat different types of foods, wear different styles of clothing, listen to different music, and follow different political and religious beliefs. Now if you're willing to embrace anothers culture for love then more power to you, I was unwilling to try since I like my own culture. not to say you couldn't compromise somewhere, but to do so would be difficult. Take one of my Indian friends, Her family is devout Hinu directly from India She married another friend of mine, a white boy from Mississipi who's whole family is Christian... The wedding was a spectacular traditional Indian ceremony with no hint of Christianity, he had to sacrifice his faith and his family's faith to apease her families faith. To do that speaks volumes of his willingness to sacrifice for his love. Are you willing to make sacrifices you haven't even thought of? Ask that question of yourself before entering into a mixed race relationship. It's not simply a matter of will others look down on me, or I'm not a racist so theres no reason not to. It's a matter of what are you willing to sacrifice for that other person to maintain that relationship and keep it successful. Sometimes it may just be easier to stay within your own safety zone, sometimes it may be worthwhile to step out. just my 2 cents.
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I think the thought of people looking at you with a sense of curiosity is wishful thinking. I think it was BlazinBlades, or something like that in this thread who had a story about how some guys approached him for just flirting interacially. I don't know exactly what you are trying to find out about this girl and her father. You can learn all you need to know by taking a black girl through Baltimore, D.C, etc.. or being of another race and taking a white girl through some mid-west regions.
I just find it hard to believe that what you get from others will be simple curiosity or anything other than negativity. Frankly, there really isn't anything to be curious about....or at least I can't think of a reason someone would have a fascination with an interacial couple. Maybe they would be thinking, "I wonder why she/he couldn't find someone of their own race?" , or "I wonder what he/she see's in them?"....but I'd consider those negativity too.
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Soooo you think black culture needs to "move forward"? because Blacks are the only ones who speak with intentionally broken english? Get r done? Or the only people who dress funny? or just because of the music?
I know you didn't really mean it like that though... I'm just givin you a hard time... But i truly suggest you try another culture... Mixing cultures is beautifull... And maybe you can learn something that you can appreciate about rap... and you can share ...country? with the girl...
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I've never dated outside my race..but not because I'm racist, or because I choose not too..it's just an attraction thing I guess..although there are many women of different races who I find very good looking, the majority of women I'm physically attracted to are white.
If you wouldnt jump Halle Berry then...............
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I was brought up in the 50's and 60's. Maybe that kinda explains it. I dont have issues with asians and other races for dating.
I think I will stop here, before I open a can of worms. Sorry all, but thats me.
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Now this is a woman!!
zomg...
Ive never found her the least bit attractive...
Isnt it great how there is somoene for everyone in life. I mean it would be both boring and a little tense if we all like the same poeple
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tell me you wouldnt date her, i would! in a heartbeat..
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Ew at that woman you posted outfcrtl. I think she's ..icky. Not attractive.
I like Tyra and Beyonce. Both beautiful woman.
But too each their own.
Ayumi Hamasaki please!!
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I can only speak for myself. Aside from race, you have culture. Culture is more important to me than race. If I do not agree or relate to a particular culture, I cannot date a person from that culture. We just wouldn't see eye to eye on most things. I don't exactly know the reason why, maybe it is biological, but I do not find people that are a different race attractive. Hell, I don't even find most of the women in my own race attractive. But thank goodness I already found the most beautiful woman in the world and married her!
As for my son...
I would never tell him he couldn't date someone that is a different race. But it would be hard for me to accept someone of a culture I do not agree with as part of the family.
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Other than the fact that I am happily married, I wouldn't date her. While visual appearance is important, it is not the only reason to date someone. I've never went up and asked someone out on a date, because of looks. I always got to know the person first, and if that person was "my type" then I would ask her out.
So all these pictures you and others are posting of "other than white" hot women are not that enticing. All they are is beautiful women and those are easy to come by. I would much rather know "who" they are rather than what they look like.
MMORPG's w/ Max level characters: DAoC, SWG, & WoW
Currently Playing: WAR
Preferred Playstyle: Roleplay/adventurous, in a sandbox game.
MMORPG's w/ Max level characters: DAoC, SWG, & WoW
Currently Playing: WAR
Preferred Playstyle: Roleplay/adventurous, in a sandbox game.
Other than the fact that I am happily married, I wouldn't date her. While visual appearance is important, it is not the only reason to date someone. I've never went up and asked someone out on a date, because of looks. I always got to know the person first, and if that person was "my type" then I would ask her out.
So all these pictures you and others are posting of "other than white" hot women are not that enticing. All they are is beautiful women and those are easy to come by. I would much rather know "who" they are rather than what they look like.
i do respect your views, but i gotta say, youre like part of the 2% of the male population that actually believes that way. either that, or youre lying to make yourself seem more "mature". if youre telling the truth, kudos to you, you are very unique. most of us men wish that we could actually view women that way (not just say we do, lol). if youre lying, then congratulations, your just like the rest of us. the only difference is that the rest of us dont see a reason to lie about how we really feel, especially on a forum. in either case, if your wife reads your post, im sure shell be quite impressed with it.
Oo and just so you know, i completely agree about the "more than looks that counts" aspect of your post. but looks are very nice to have. wish i had em.
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then it might interest you to know that Meg here has played in several movies where she wasnt "fully clothed", lol. and yes i find her very attractive, especially in "City of Angels". good movie, and great actress.
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I do not really find any of those women attractive, I thinking next day action, sure there are plenty of girls that can put on a lot of makeup to look good, but in the morning for the next day action to begin, yea thats were it really counts. I remember I hooked up one night with a lingerie model in NYC, she looked good, everyone thought she was so sexy, until the morning, and man was I ever horrified I felt violated. Remove the war paint off their faces, and remove the enhancements to their pictures, then we can decide if they are sexy or not. (Side note: I met Beyonce 7 times in the same Hotel in London, very nice person I had no idea who she was to be honest, until she told me, but she is not as attractive as people think. People I think would be very surprised at how truly unattractive these people are when they are caught off guard, and most importantly not done up like a Barbie doll).Bring it on down now.
Damn byotch dat aint no friggn moon fool, dat be a friggn space station byotch.
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i think its not about beeing racist its about fearing coming problems couse of racists from both sides
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Other than the fact that I am happily married, I wouldn't date her. While visual appearance is important, it is not the only reason to date someone. I've never went up and asked someone out on a date, because of looks. I always got to know the person first, and if that person was "my type" then I would ask her out.
So all these pictures you and others are posting of "other than white" hot women are not that enticing. All they are is beautiful women and those are easy to come by. I would much rather know "who" they are rather than what they look like.
She's a celeb, you can pretty much get all the info you need off the internet. Don't take his comment too hard. It's called a crush.
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