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Has anyone ever been, or known, a female "Best Man"?
Rayx0r
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Well, I proposed to my fiance last month and we're starting to plan out the wedding. I have some guy friends who I could ask to be my best man, problem is I havnt known them very long and I have a much closer friend who is female. To make long stories short I had to cut ties with almost all of my life long friends about 5 years ago due to heavy drug use and I just up and moved to another state where I knew absolutely nobody. (also was a major career move which involves government contracts which had a lot to do with both of the above). At any rate, all my old friends consider me a sell out, and theres an overall feeling of resentment.
Anway, when I came down here in Florida I met someone and we became really good friends and remain good friends. I met my fiance a couple years ago. I joked once with my friend and said Id make her my "best man" if Jennie and I hit it off.. and as crazy as it is Jennie and I really hit it off. So, now Im looking for groomsmen and a best man and Im considering asking her. I just dont know if it would be proper. Jennie is cool with it, Im sure her parents would be fine with it.. but Im just not sure how well it would be accepted by her or how awkward I'll end up making the entire wedding including guests.
so, anyone experience this first hand or know someone who had a "best dudette"?
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Why the heck not?
Just tell her she gota ware a Tux just like yours tho.
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Nothing wrong with a female Best Man. I hear about the reverse a couple times, and ofcourse there are lesbian weddings were that happens often.
ya thats the other thing. what the hell would she wear? I think a tux may be a bit akward for her
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I know a woman who was the "best man" at a friend's wedding. She wore a really cute "little black dress". It was short and very tight and she looked great. Even one of the ushers was a woman who also wore a black dress. The groom is a fashion photographer and a lot of his friends are women. The whole event was wonderful and nothing seemed odd or out of place.
congratulation Rayx0r. Hope it all goes well.
congratulations.
yep, two of my male friends had a female 'best man'. Regarding what to wear, at one, the 'best man' was happy to to wear a tux (and she looked great) and the at the other the girl wore an elegant little black dress.
remember, the wedding is there to celebrate your union, so it is up to you to decide what you want. Yes, it is a community based event but don't loose focus that it is you and your wife to be who are the reason people will be there, don't let others hijack your wedding with what they think is right/proper/traditional etc.
First of all congratulations.
My cousin's "best man" was a female. It was actually the girlfriend of her brother,
Four problems with that.
1. Then it would be called best Woman
2. Women and Men can't be close friends without fucking
3. Your Wife to be wont be too happy
4. Guys with girls for best mates are all gay... atleast where I live.
You probably live in underarocks ville.
You probably live in underarocks ville.
Oh go back to your PC bashing on gametrailers.
thanks for the gratz all.
Thanks all for the replies as well (nurgles and gameloading especially). Even the person that helped me finally realize that im a closet homosexual because my closest friend is female. (I really had no idea..)
at any rate, seems like this isnt as uncommon as I thought. Did some googling and it echoes a lot of what some of you are saying here. Still not sure how Im going to proced, but Im a bit more at ease knowing my closest friend can still stand at my side as I get married without a gender issue.
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yep, you are obviously BOTH gay AND cheating on your fiance with a woman.
First, congrats
Second, the wedding is about the bride and groom. Follow the traditions you want to, change the ones that you want to tweak, and drop the ones you don't want. With how complicated planning that sucker will become, it will be helpful to have a good friend there as added support instead of just a guy you know.
First congrats!
Second, sure, have the female friend be your best man. It is not as rare as you might think. It is also customary for the female best man to be dressed in a nice black dress. I say do it.
Congrats on the pending wedding Rayx0r.
And yeah, I don't think it's much of an issue anymore. My brother was married last year and his Best "Man" was his female best friend of like 20 years.
I think for the most part people realize your wedding day is about you, and your soon-to-be wife, and won't make much of a fuss about anything you decide is best. Especially something like this.
Good luck!
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why the frick not? give her a gown. just no prettier than your fiance. that wold b lolz
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A female groomsman is usually called a "groom's attendant" because the groom's woman is the bride. Same thing for "best woman" - that should also be the bride.
I've also been to a wedding where a female groom's attendant wore the same thing as the bridesmaids, but she wasn't a 'best man'. Since your friend is going to take that place of honor, I'd recommend a black dress or whatever matches your other groomsmen. Just by standing next to you and not farther down the line will indicate her role, and a tux or matching dress will keep her from standing out too much.
And be sure to get her opinion on what she wants to wear. If she's much of a tomboy, maybe she'd rather be in a tux or dressy pantsuit than a gown.
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