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Baby Due in 3 Weeks.... HELLLLLLLLP MEEEEEEE!!!
Dis_Ordur
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To all the parents here at MMORPG.com, any advice?
I have raised a kid for 10 years now, but didn't meet him until he was 4. From the age of 4 on, I am the best dad in the world. However I am a complete rookie with babies. I imagine playing MMO's will be hard with her. Probably going to switch to XBOX 360 for a while. This is easier to play with baby in sights.
Anyone managed to play MMO's and raise a baby successfully?
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My advice, don't. Sacrifice games for 1 year and focus all your extra time on your baby. You will have the best damned relationship with your child.
My advice, don't. Sacrifice games for 1 year and focus all your extra time on your baby. You will have the best damned relationship with your child.
Roger that. This is what I was anticipating. Maybe by the time come back to MMO's there won't be a bunch of crappy WoW clones with heavy instancing.
Grats on the Baby! My brothers wife is due this May,my friend at work is due May, my friend at my store.. May... err my best friend in the Philippines... May
Whats up with 9 months ago? Did I miss the Memo hehehe. Yeah just take a year off, MMOPRGs will always be around to enjoy and kids are waaaaay more fun, just beware the toxic leakage eck..
Chances are you and all of your friends are in their early 30's. This is the age when babies start falling from the sky. I know at least 10 good friends that have either recently had a baby or are expecting. It will be great for my daughter though, lots of playmates!
Chances are you and all of your friends are in their early 30's. This is the age when babies start falling from the sky. I know at least 10 good friends that have either recently had a baby or are expecting. It will be great for my daughter though, lots of playmates!
If some of them are boys then in about 15 years you'll have a whole new set of "challenges".
No required quests! And if I decide I want to be an assassin-cartographer-dancer-pastry chef who lives only to stalk and kill interior decorators, then that's who I want to be, even if it takes me four years to max all the skills and everyone else thinks I'm freaking nuts. -Madimorga-
Something about the idea of dis_ordur getting being wrapped around the finger of a little girl makes me chuckle.
after 6 or so years, I had to change it a little...
My advice? Don't have babies. Adopt a virtual one in a MMORPG like Aika and take care of it. =P
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My advice, don't. Sacrifice games for 1 year and focus all your extra time on your baby. You will have the best damned relationship with your child.
I just recently got married and would love to have kids, so would my wife. thing is, were both gamers.. and man you just put things in perspective
come to think of it, right now is the perfect time to have a kid. no new /really/ good games out for a while. so OP, consider yourself, as an MMO gamer, very lucky to have your kid right now
"If you want a picture of the future, imagine a robot foot stomping on a human face -- forever."
I know several people who have babies and still have time for gaming. Albeit, maybe not quite as much time as before and they probably have had to adjust their times and that sort of thing. What they don't seem to have time for are things like going to concerts and films, dining out and vacations. You'll probably have such good fun that you'll not even miss any of the things that get interrupted.
I think giving advice not to have children in favour of adopting a virtual one is a wee bit late at this point!
My advice, don't. Sacrifice games for 1 year and focus all your extra time on your baby. You will have the best damned relationship with your child.
I just recently got married and would love to have kids, so would my wife. thing is, were both gamers.. and man you just put things in perspective
come to think of it, right now is the perfect time to have a kid. no new /really/ good games out for a while. so OP, consider yourself, as an MMO gamer, very lucky to have your kid right now
It took the third kid to realize it. My first two boys, we played (my wife is an avid gamer too) while they played. They would roll around on their baby mat playing and interacting with their toys. Doesn't sound too bad, but we never (at least me mostly) put forth the amount of time needed to create that "bond". Sure, I love them and I know it's back at me, but they still do their own thing and really don't want much to do with Dad in the realm of having fun (these two are 7 and 10).
When my wife had our youngest (he is three now), it was her third c-section. She was, to say the least, incapacitated. I took about 8 weeks off of work to help. I actually spent every waking hour with him. He never liked his crib so we slept in our recliner. It was during those 8 weeks I realized how much I enjoyed the time I have with my kids. Him and I built that Dad-Son bond and he, even though he is three, shows a greater respect for me than the others. He is better behaved, he listens better (too much actually - he won't stop saying god dammit now), he seems more happy and he has developed quicker than the others (clapped at 2 months, first words at 6 months, walked at nine months, he can count over 100, knows his alphabet and some basic words, knows his numbers and can do basic addition - overall, he is better developed).
I'm not saying to give up gaming if you enjoy it, but don't anticipate the naps simply to play and never let your baby play alone. Toys and mobiles don't replace parent interaction.
First, understand that your life is going to change, and I mean CHANGE BIGTIME! Sleep won't be as easy as it was, because you're going to be getting up throughout the night, even if you don't hear anything, because you'll think you heard something wrong. You're going to have to learn how to change diapers, hold a baby, etc. It's not hard, but for me it was scary to get used to. You think they are SO fragile, and your big hands will just crush them if you're not careful. But actually they're quite tough little F's lol. If the Mommy wants to breast feed, let her. Believe me, it actually means ALOT less work for you. But you'll be sacrificing that nice time of feeding them yourself. The absolute best thing you can do is support the mommy, and help her with anything you can. The reason is, she can get a bit depressed, due to the changes happening to her lifestyle. Don't let this worry you, as it's quite a joy to raise kids.
As for gaming, just understand that the baby and mommy come first. But definately take the time to enjoy what freetime you can find for yourself. You'll need it. Treasure it lol. I wouldn't suggest doing any guild or group stuff very often, because you'll probably be pulled away to tend to something right in the middle of a fight. Consoles are actually a good thing as you said. It keeps you in the living room, around everyone else, so you can be more attentive. But the rules still apply. Pay attention to what's happening with mommy and baby while you're having your "me" time.
The main thing that's rough is going trough the change. It'll feel like you're entire world has been flipped upside-down. Everything you were used to doing, the way you did it, will change to some degree. EVERYTHING. But I promise you, you'll get used to it.
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Thanks Dekron. This will be my wife's 2nd c-section, but her first was 14 years ago. She will need time to recuperate and I will make sure I am there as much as possible! I also hear you about the bonding part. The infancy stages are so crucial for their mental development. I certainly won't be half-assing it when it comes to bonding with my little girl
Vhayne, your post scared me and made me excited all at the same time. Your warnings have been heeded
Thats one thing my mom wouldnt do is a C-Section. No need, good physical makeup for popping out babies. That being said my friend has the best gaming life ever now. He has his little tyke on his chest and we can hear her talking to us over vent. Such a adorable girl! Hes gaming less but never stopped. Although our guild made a rule if she crys we will stop a raid to let him take care of it. hehe I love my guild.
Thanks Dekron. This will be my wife's 2nd c-section, but her first was 14 years ago. She will need time to recuperate and I will make sure I am there as much as possible! I also hear you about the bonding part. The infancy stages are so crucial for their mental development. I certainly won't be half-assing it when it comes to bonding with my little girl
Vhayne, your post scared me and made me excited all at the same time. Your warnings have been heeded
Hehe, I didn't mean to scare you.
It's just good to be prepared for the changes. I wasn't, and it hit me like a brick! But I now have 3 kids (2, 4 and 5) and it's all good. As I said, you get used to it, and your life is SO much better because of them. 
Enjoy your little girl!
The doctor said (and I am paraphrasing) my wife is too tight to have a kid the natural way - hence the c-sections. Not that I complain or anything.
The doctor said (and I am paraphrasing) my wife is too tight to have a kid the natural way - hence the c-sections. Not that I complain or anything.
LOL, tru dat Dekron. My wife didn't dialate at all with her first kid. She is a smaller lady too, so c-section makes the most sense.
Trying to play a MMO and raise a baby is near child abuse=) Tack on another child and OH BOY!! But seriously, you're just not going to have the time or energy to play any video game for much longer than 30 mins during the early months. I'm playing ME2 right now and have been able to mine a little with 1 hand, while holding my son when he's sleeping, hehe...we've all done it!!!!
I couldnt' think of playing a MMO with young kids.