I need some advice about a girl

paranoidpvp

Ok, so I went to my cousins wedding this weekend and met this smoking hot girl, gorgeous as hell, intelligent, great attitude, alot of fun and the same age as me. We danced a couple times and got to talking, it was nearing the end of the night so I wrote down my e-mail adress and cell phone number for her but I didn't get hers. I was expecting to see her at a get-together at my cousin's place the next day so I would be able to get it, however when I got there I found out that they were not able to make it. She lives about 6 hours away from me so I don't really have any way of getting ahold of her, I have a way of finding out but it means finding out my cousins email adress, asking my cousin to ask her new husband to find out and then finally getting it sent to me so I can contact her. Is it just me or would that seem a little desperate... Anyway when I talked to some of the people at the get-together I found out that she really liked me (talked to my cousin, the girl's father in law and a couple other relatives) so there shouldn't be a reason for her not to contact me. It is one day later and I havn't heard a thing, maybe she lost the paper? Any advice?

P.S. Yes I know this is probably not the best forum to ask about this kind of thing but plz just give me some help...

modjoe86

Mozis?!
Wait for her to contact you. If she really liked you she'll find a way. The key is to act like you don't care, because (from what I understand) girls hate it when guys seem desperate. I would flame you, but our precious time in vent prevents that. Just wait and see what happens.

Infliction

At your cousin's wedding? First I would find out if she's one of your cousins too. 

Xexima

she might just be scared... I dunno.  Usually the guys are the ones that call first.

Zerogenum

Girls are iffy, She could either find it "desperate. Or she might find it romantic.


If she really does like you then wouldnt she like to hear from you?


I say go for it, why not.

paranoidpvp

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Originally posted by Infliction
At your cousin's wedding? First I would find out if she's one of your cousins too. 

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she might just be scared... I dunno.  Usually the guys are the ones that call first.

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 Yeah I made sure she wasn't one of my cousins... All clear

I don't think she would be scared, at the wedding she just walked right up to me, sat down and started talking. Brave chick IMO...

Boozbaz

Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

Rikimaru_X

*Riki walks in topic*

Ok, man. Here is what you should do. I know you really want to talk to this girl, but I suggest you wait at least a week to hear from her. It sounds like patience(sp?) is the key to this event. I mean you have a lot of time to get her number, but the thing is that she may need time before talking to you. I don't know what's going though her head, but I suggest you sit down, take a deep breath, sigh, and chill.

You'll get a message soon.

modjoe86

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Originally posted by Boozbaz
Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

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That's a bad way to start out a relationship. If he starts out looking clingy and desperate she will walk all over him. I know this frm first and third hand experience.

Boozbaz

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Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
*Riki walks in topic*

Ok, man. Here is what you should do. I know you really want to talk to this girl, but I suggest you wait at least a week to hear from her. It sounds like patience(sp?) is the key to this event. I mean you have a lot of time to get her number, but the thing is that she may need time before talking to you. I don't know what's going though her head, but I suggest you sit down, take a deep breath, sigh, and chill.

You'll get a message soon.

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Yeah but what if patience leads to second thoughts, then passiveness, and finally inaction?

Boozbaz

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Originally posted by modjoe86

Originally posted by Boozbaz
Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

That's a bad way to start out a relationship. If he starts out looking clingy and desperate she will walk all over him. I know this frm first and third hand experience.

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Hey that's a good point. Don't take my advice lol. Modjoe just explained what I've experience pretty well.

modjoe86

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Originally posted by Boozbaz

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
*Riki walks in topic*

Ok, man. Here is what you should do. I know you really want to talk to this girl, but I suggest you wait at least a week to hear from her. It sounds like patience(sp?) is the key to this event. I mean you have a lot of time to get her number, but the thing is that she may need time before talking to you. I don't know what's going though her head, but I suggest you sit down, take a deep breath, sigh, and chill.

You'll get a message soon.

Yeah but what if patience leads to second thoughts, then passiveness, and finally inaction?

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Yea, but if he goes to all these random means to contact her, it's going to look like he's stalking her. You gotta give this stuff time.

paranoidpvp

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Originally posted by modjoe86

Originally posted by Boozbaz
Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

That's a bad way to start out a relationship. If he starts out looking clingy and desperate she will walk all over him. I know this frm first and third hand experience.

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Good point, god this is way too complicated... I wish I had a pic to show you guys, you would know exactly why I am so anxious (sp?) about this whole thing...

Xexima

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Originally posted by Boozbaz

Originally posted by Rikimaru_X
*Riki walks in topic*

Ok, man. Here is what you should do. I know you really want to talk to this girl, but I suggest you wait at least a week to hear from her. It sounds like patience(sp?) is the key to this event. I mean you have a lot of time to get her number, but the thing is that she may need time before talking to you. I don't know what's going though her head, but I suggest you sit down, take a deep breath, sigh, and chill.

You'll get a message soon.

Yeah but what if patience leads to second thoughts, then passiveness, and finally inaction?

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yeah, thats why he should go downtown and get a hooker for the night

Xexima

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Originally posted by paranoidpvp

Originally posted by modjoe86

Originally posted by Boozbaz
Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

That's a bad way to start out a relationship. If he starts out looking clingy and desperate she will walk all over him. I know this frm first and third hand experience.

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Good point, god this is way too complicated... I wish I had a pic to show you guys, you would know exactly why I am so anxious (sp?) about this whole thing...

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So... you're like really ugly and fat, and she is really hot and skinny?  .. that might be the reason she hasn't called

modjoe86

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Originally posted by paranoidpvp

Originally posted by modjoe86

Originally posted by Boozbaz
Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

That's a bad way to start out a relationship. If he starts out looking clingy and desperate she will walk all over him. I know this frm first and third hand experience.

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Good point, god this is way too complicated... I wish I had a pic to show you guys, you would know exactly why I am so anxious (sp?) about this whole thing...

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That's the nature of a relationship...you hate 90% of the worry and anxiety while in a relationship, but the other 10% makes it all worth-while. That's why I'm so hesitant to go on the hunt for a new girlfriend.

Boozbaz

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BlazinBlades

Well I have to tell you that most girls like the idea of you going through hell to get in touch with them, or finding them all sorts of things like that, it really is a pain in the ass, so I would get ahold of your cousin and go through everything you have to go through chances are she is going to hear about it, and I would say that she might even put out because of it. A word of caution though some girls will not put out because of that, they are more innocent and sensitive type. But if she does put out for doing that then shit dude you got yourself one hell of a honey that will be into everything including girl on girl three ways with you. But if she wont put out that’s okay no harm done, she will still think your really hot for going through all the trouble to get in contact with her, and when she does end up putting out for you some day, believe me she will remember the time and all the work you went through to get in contact with her and she will rock the living shit out of you all night long. Those are the good things, now there is one bad part to all of this however, she may end up calling the cops on you and accusing you of being a stalker, which can be good an bad, the bad side, she ends shooting you or at you, that is not fun man don’t try it, or two, she may end up giving in and having a good hard night of sex. Just go for it man, always remeber, chicks are hard, and they make you hard.

paranoidpvp

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Originally posted by Xexima

Originally posted by paranoidpvp

Originally posted by modjoe86

Originally posted by Boozbaz
Well it may not seem desperate to go through all that trouble to speak with her again, that would be jumping to conclusions. It may appear to be romantic in her eyes. Don't really worry about it, if you are willing to go through all that to contact her, why not?

one way you can find out why she hasn't emailed/phoned may be to ask her what happened.

That's a bad way to start out a relationship. If he starts out looking clingy and desperate she will walk all over him. I know this frm first and third hand experience.

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Good point, god this is way too complicated... I wish I had a pic to show you guys, you would know exactly why I am so anxious (sp?) about this whole thing...

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So... you're like really ugly and fat, and she is really hot and skinny?  .. that might be the reason she hasn't called

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-_- Not funny...

Oh well, I'll just wait it out I guess.... After a few days of nothing I might take matters into my own hands.

paranoidpvp

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Originally posted by BlazinBlades

Well I have to tell you that most girls like the idea of you going through hell to get in touch with them, or finding them all sorts of things like that, it really is a pain in the ass, so I would get ahold of your cousin and go through everything you have to go through chances are she is going to hear about it, and I would say that she might even put out because of it. A word of caution though some girls will not put out because of that, they are more innocent and sensitive type. But if she does put out for doing that then shit dude you got yourself one hell of a honey that will be into everything including girl on girl three ways with you. But if she wont put out that’s okay no harm done, she will still think your really hot for going through all the trouble to get in contact with her, and when she does end up putting out for you some day, believe me she will remember the time and all the work you went through to get in contact with her and she will rock the living shit out of you all night long. Those are the good things, now there is one bad part to all of this however, she may end up calling the cops on you and accusing you of being a stalker, which can be good an bad, the bad side, she ends shooting you or at you, that is not fun man don’t try it, or two, she may end up giving in and having a good hard night of sex. Just go for it man, always remeber, chicks are hard, and they make you hard.

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Hahaha that was an awesome paragraph, thanks for the laugh. Just so you know I'm 16 so I'm not exactly expecting her to put out right away but eventually that might make a nice little bonus...

Xexima

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Originally posted by paranoidpvp

-_- Not funny...

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Hit the nail on the head?

I'm just playin with ya...

paranoidpvp

K well I g2g, but I might let you guys know how this whole thing turns out. Wish me luck

Vampir

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Originally posted by paranoidpvp

Ok, so I went to my cousins wedding this weekend and met this smoking hot girl, gorgeous as hell, intelligent, great attitude, alot of fun and the same age as me. We danced a couple times and got to talking, it was nearing the end of the night so I wrote down my e-mail adress and cell phone number for her but I didn't get hers. I was expecting to see her at a get-together at my cousin's place the next day so I would be able to get it, however when I got there I found out that they were not able to make it. She lives about 6 hours away from me so I don't really have any way of getting ahold of her, I have a way of finding out but it means finding out my cousins email adress, asking my cousin to ask her new husband to find out and then finally getting it sent to me so I can contact her. Is it just me or would that seem a little desperate... Anyway when I talked to some of the people at the get-together I found out that she really liked me (talked to my cousin, the girl's father in law and a couple other relatives) so there shouldn't be a reason for her not to contact me. It is one day later and I havn't heard a thing, maybe she lost the paper? Any advice?
P.S. Yes I know this is probably not the best forum to ask about this kind of thing but plz just give me some help...

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wait if not its not worth it.

girls sometimes liek guys as dates on one time occasions and not as a serious relationship, and if shes 6 hours away then it might be more worth her time to get a guy closer to her that can be there to hold her, and if she needs anything, or gets sick, etc.

believe me distance kills things.

kimosabe

Something like this happened to me once (but instead of a wedding, it was a cast party for a play). I met a girl, hit it off, got her email and number, but she was a few hours away. We got to be friends, but friends is about the best you can get from starting a relationship at distance. Sorry man, hate to sound pessimistic, but thats the way the tectonic cookies crumble.

Cooktastico

Let it go, if she likes you, she'll get ahold of you. The best way to go about it is to play it off like the classic 70s TV personality, Fonzie, and if you don't know who that is then nevermind. Girls tend to like the James Bond type "I don't care because I'm a badass" guy. But it's always possible to blow that in-person before she even gets a chance to talk to you. Girls can also like the romantic guy, but that's less common. Either way it's a toss up, and you can join the ranks of us who have been screwed, or not screwed if you look at it that way, from the devils that are women.

Hochete

tbh sounds like you'll come off as a stalker if you start trying to hunt her down lol, i'd just leave ti and see if she contacts u. if she dont, then she doesnt want to.